Everyday I get on facebook I have friend requests from people that we have 29 friends in common, or 117 friends in common, I pull up the list and it is all music connections.
I feel like facebook is like your own personal living room. You say what's on your mind, you bring out the family videos and photo albums, etc... should you use such a personal vehicle with perfect strangers? Sure you have music in common, but where should you draw the line?
The event invitations are great, and people see your activity in the live news stream.
In a traditional work place the line between professional and personal is guarded, stuck to, and very clear. With music, where does the personal/professional line get drawn? Do I really want some drummer, I have never met seeing the pics of me and mom over the holidays? Not that there is anything to hide, but would you walk up to a perfect stranger on the street and tell them your opinions without ever saying hello?
I have pretty much quit even going to My Space and almost never go to Facebook. It is like one constant barrage of personal invites to someone's show, benefit or event. It is not "friends" as much as junk mail.
you can actually create a "fan page" that can be used exclusively for business. that may help you keep the personal and private lives separate, though this has always been a struggle for entertainers.
it's unfortunate that the new facebook policies are moving away from privacy and allow you to be more easily "discoverable." i created a nom de plume specifically for that reason when i started my facebook page. and it certainly does help keep out the riff raff.
I'm still having mixed emotions about this very topic. I wish people would just use FB as more of a personal thing and Myspace as a place to promote the music. The problem is that just about everyone I know is a musician, singer, songwriter, etc., and it's hard for them not to mention something about their music. Then along with those friends come their friends that you don't know and what you were saying about these other people seeing your personal pics and stuff is kind of creepy. So, back to your question................... My opinion is keep them separate. Or, do like Marc, which is probably the smartest thing, just quit going to FB and Myspace. I have cut back on the amount of time I spend on there too. Oh, Marc if you read this, hello. I haven't seen you in a long time and you probably don't even remember me. And Debra, thanks for the great questions!
to be the devil's advocate - I don't think you can completely abandon the marketing goldmine of facebook. everyone is one it, nieces and nephews right on up to grandma and grandpa... I just don't want to completely use such a universal tool just for personal reasons? I just don't know - all these responses seem to say keep it private - so I will have to see what others say!
I look at facebook as a sort of bridge between snail mail and a phone chat. It allows me to talk to friends that bridge over 30 years of friendship. It's a way to keep up with real friends and not just Internet friends. About 90% of the people on my friends list are people I have known in the real world.
There is nobody putting a gun to my head and saying you must accept friend requests. Generally I just don't accept them.
Musicians (all artists actually) are like the scorpion on the frogs back. Hype comes along with the territory. So I just accept the fact that my artist friends will always be promoting something. It's no different than it would be in real life. I realise that with most dedicated artists their work is their life to a great extent so the hype is really no more than "this is what I did today" type thing.
Sue has a point. That was how I was explaining FB to my older sister, who tried it and couldn't hanlde all the invites and stuff, that it's a way to stay in touch with life long and long distance friends without staying on the phone all the time. I do think there should be some human interaction but if I called everyone on my FB list I would have to create another me. Also, all of us in music love exposure and attention and most will jump at anything that will give us that. I think FB and Myspace have been wonderful for creative people to express themselves on such a wide basis. A part of me wants to be private sometimes. I guess it all comes down to chioces.
a lot of me wants to be private sometimes, but it is the humanity that connects us all, but where do you draw the digital line so all these worlds don't collide in an unfamiliar world where someone who doesn't quite know you could misinterpret notes, videos, photos, etc...